Hi everyone!
Well, I decided that I have spent enough time in the shadows
of our blog and needed to come forward so everyone knew there actually IS
someone else in the equation. Sorry it
has taken so long, but in all honesty, it’s intimidating for me with this
topic. I’m not as well-versed on the terminology as Kerry, nor am I as educated
as most of the viewers of our blog. So
to save face, and not feel embarrassed, I’ve just hung out in the shadows. The reality, though, is that I DO have value
to add – and I’m ready to attempt to do just that.
I have blood work to complete and then we are ready to order
our donor specimen. We are getting so
close to our first IUI procedure, and it’s exciting and scary all at once. WOW, this is really happening!! We’re going to be parents before we know it.
I feel as though I have the outsider’s perspective on this entire process,
and am likely experiencing some of the feelings that a lot of people in our shoes
have experienced:
Will I be affected emotionally by
NOT having any biological tie to our child?
Will our child love me the same,
even though I didn’t birth him/her?
Will I have the answers to the
questions he/she will undoubtedly ask about their father?
Will my family feel connected to
our child since there is no biological tie to me?
I sometimes feel like the innocent bystander to an accident
that happens out on the street. I see
everything that is happening, and I have an understanding of what it all means,
but I’m just standing idly by on the sidewalk, waiting for the accident to
happen. How am I going to TIE myself to
the process and involvement so that I’m NOT that person?
Well…in my mind it’s easy: Love.
A house full of love.
Answers full of honesty and love. Family and friends that share their
love.
Does that answer every question? No, it doesn’t, but we aren’t delusional
enough to think so either. We just want
to raise our child in love, honesty, and surrounded by people willing to offer
their support at any time. We will have
a child that is blessed with two moms, and we’ll ensure he/she is also blessed
with a positive, male influence throughout life.
Typically, this is the point that a lot of
people fear most: no dad.
Well, I have a cousin who calls her step-father “Dad,” and
views him as her father. No biological
tie there. I have friends whose fathers
were absent, yet they turned out just fine.
Our child will as well.
Are there other factors that will set them apart from their
friends and classmates? Of course, but
it’s our job as PARENTS to ensure they feel safe, happy, loved, and have an
understanding that there are many differences in people and life….and whatever
they may feel about that is “OK” and acceptable! And most importantly, we love and support
them – always!
More to come, from both of us, as we continue down this wonderfully crazy road!!
